“A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.” James Allen
Self-leadership. We all have to do it. Whether you lead at the highest level, own your own business or participate in an organization in various roles without a formal position of leadership. Even when we are not at work we have to do this. How are you doing in this area?
Each morning I wake up, somedays before the alarm goes off, but often shocked into reality by music blaring out of my alarm. Then what . . . do I snooze? Do I hop out of bed excited by a new day of adventure? Do I lay there thinking of all I have to do that day? Do I start worrying about the million things out of my control?
It depends.
One thing is certain, my mind is going and the battle is raging. What will be my first thought? After that will I feed it so it grows or dismiss it?
It depends.
For years I was a strength and conditioning coach. My job each day was to get athletes to do what they naturally did not want to do . . . work hard on something they may not have seen the benefit in so they could be better at what they enjoyed . . . their sport.
Mindset is key. Carol Dweck in her research on this topic wrote a book about this topic. She highlights two types of mindset:
Fixed
This mindset believes this is how I will always be and I can never change . . . these are the cards dealt to me.
Growth
A person with this perspective thinks I can change and evolve into a different person than I am today.
Both are rooted in our thoughts which directly impact our outcomes. Anyone who has spent time selling an idea, a product, or a service knows this is true. Whether we have doubt or confidence in what we are selling others will sense it.
Let me suggest a few ideas on how to get our mind set in a direction for success each day.
Gratitude
When I wake up each day even though I would rather lay back down I try to think of at least one thing I am grateful for. That may be “thank you for this new day.” Starting the day with thanks and gratitude will help set our attitude in the right direction.
Set the Agenda Beforehand
I find that if I set my agenda for the day, week, etc. the night before I am not waking up anxious about that day. By writing it down, the tasks and goals are out of my mind and I can reference them when work time begins.
Think Time
Each day as I eat breakfast I read and journal. These may not be habits that work for you, but this is a great way for me to dump yesterday’s garbage and some of today’s poor thinking. I read something that will inspire me to live for more than just myself. For me that is the Bible, but for you it may be something as simple as a quote of the day on a tear off calendar. Taking time to clear my mind of the garbage and fill it with truth is critical to helping me have the right mindset.
This only touches the surface of this issue and in later posts I will dig deeper because as the quote at the top says, our thinking determines our character which impacts our results. Which of the three ideas can you implement to help your self-leadership? Need someone to help you think into your results? Contact me. In the meantime, lead well at work and home.
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