A couple weeks ago I had the opportunity to spend time with my oldest son at an orphanage in El Salvador. After spending a week serving these young children and trying to demonstrate unconditional love I want to take a moment to reflect on what this experience taught me about leadership.
Leadership is being present. Each of these young children has their own specific home they live in with other children of similar age. In order to care for these children they have “Tias” who take care of them. As I think of each of these women I think of women who are tirelessly serving these children as parents. The most challenging part for them must be the act of being present not only physically, but emotionally in order to provide for them emotionally, physically, spiritually and in every other manner. As a parent or leader of an organization we can go through the motions or we can be present and intentionally engage with those we lead.
Leadership is being understanding. These young men and women come from very challenging environments which could serve as an excuse for bad behavior. In this environment there are expected standards to follow in order to stay at the home, but the leaders understand the situations they came from are less than ideal. For example, one young man had been living homeless on the street for seven years . . . and he is now only about 13. A leader will hold others to high standards, but also be understanding of where those who follow them are coming from.
Leaders persevere. The director of this organization has a tough job. She has to find the right people to take care of these children as well as decide who the appropriate children are to bring in the facility. People quit, children make bad choices and have to be asked to leave and the overwhelming burden of each of child’s story can weigh this individual down. When as a leader she sees the importance and significance of what she is trying to accomplish this helps her persevere through the many trials and tribulations. Do I have a big enough vision for what I am leading that I will persevere?
Leaders care. I did not get to know each child’s story, but the directors do and I am sure the “Tias” also know many of their stories as well. This knowledge must be a part of showing unconditional care for those they lead. Although these children came from difficult circumstances, I know they are well cared for from those who lead the organization and in each of their homes.
Being a leader is easier when you can see the return on your time, but when you don’t it requires even more caring, understanding, perseverance, and presence. Not only did I meet some wonderful young men and women who are in an environment where they can overcome their past, but I met some heroic leaders. Every day I need to hold a vision of living past the temporary and leading for what will outlast me. I hope you can do the same.
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